The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
I support Australian women who are navigating all-the-things post-separation. From supporting clients to manage ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, to providing specialised child-centred guidance on post-separation parenting arrangements - and everything in between.
This is a raw and unfiltered space where we can explore the often unseen issues of family violence, high-conflict dynamics, post-separation abuse and protective parenting.
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Episodes
55 episodes
Navigating communication with your controlling ex: The importance of boundaries for breaking the cycle of abuse
Ever wondered how to regain control when communicating with a controlling ex-partner? Join me, Australian Separation and Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as we discuss the insidious tactics like DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) us...
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52. Do you have the right support on your separation journey? How to choose the right coach for you and your situation.
Join me, Australian coach Danielle Black, as I discuss how my specialised coaching approach prioritises the well-being of both you and your children, equipping you with the tools to set firm boundaries and effectively engage with the legal syst...
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51. Part Two: Do they really have a personality disorder? Differentiating PTSD, male entitlement and personality disorders
Can you truly distinguish personality disorders from PTSD and CPTSD, or are the lines more blurred than we think? Join me, Danielle Black, as I unravel the complexities of these conditions, shedding light on how traits like mood swings, depress...
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50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"
What happens when we hastily label our abusive ex-partners as narcissists? Join me, specialist Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as I explore the critical differences between narcissistic traits and true personality diso...
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49. Part 9 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Abusive and Neglectful Parenting
This episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, hosted by Danielle Black, promises to tackle the disturbing realities of abusive and neglectful parenting. Learn how controlling and abusive parents manipulate their children through tactics li...
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48. Part 8 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Cultural, Spiritual & Religious abuse
Can cultural and spiritual beliefs be weaponised against you, even after a relationship ends? On this episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast with Danielle Black, discover how abusers manipulate cultural and religious values to maintain co...
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47. Part 7 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Economic and Financial Control
Ever felt trapped in your own life due to someone else's control over your finances? Discover the insidious world of economic and financial abuse as we unveil tactics that can keep you chained to a controlling partner long after separation. Thi...
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46. Part 6 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Undermining and sabotaging healthy parenting
Have you ever felt like your role as a parent is constantly being sabotaged by your ex? The struggle is real!Controlling and abusive former partners can use both overt and covert strategies to undermine your parenting—like the "Disneyla...
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45. Part 5 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using and disregarding children
Welcome. I'm Danielle Black, and today we're exploring the manipulative tactics used by controlling abusers who weaponise children in their ongoing power struggles. We'll uncover how these abusers, masking their self-inter...
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44. Part 4 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Isolation
Help me to shatter the silence surrounding post-separation abuse as I reveal the unseen struggles that many victim-survivors face. In this episode I expose the stark reality of how manipulative and controlling men brand themselve...
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43. Not Your F*cking Job
Every day, women across Australia are grappling with the crushing weight of domestic violence, and their cries for help are too often muffled by a system that seems to favor the abuser. The harsh reality is that our society burdens wom...
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42. Part 3 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Minimising, denying and blaming the protective parent.
In this episode I peel back the layers of manipulation and control that continue long after a relationship ends. We're not just talking about anger-fueled outbursts; this is a strategic game of blame-shifting and reality distortion that abusers...
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41. Part 2 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Harassment, intimidation, stalking & threats.
As your navigator through the stormy seas of post-separation abuse, I'm here to shine a light on the often unseen tactics abusers wield to keep their grip on power. Together, we'll uncover how subtle acts of intimidation and control can persist...
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40. Part 1 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using systems and institutions
This episode reveals how abusers wield systems and institutions as tools of manipulation, continuing to torment their former partners long after the separation. Join me as I dissect the underbelly of family violence's evolution int...
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39. Managing your mind post-separation: The importance of optimism
Discover the transformative path to empowerment after a break from a restrictive or abusive relationship. With me, Danielle Black, as your guide, this episode promises insights and strategies for harnessing the power of positive thinking to rec...
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38. Empowering our kids: Nurturing consent and personal boundaries
Growing up in the 80s meant boundaries were often blurred or altogether nonexistent for many of us, myself included. Today, I'm sharing my journey and the crucial lessons learned about the importance of establishing healthy boundaries for...
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37. Boundaries: Taking back our power and control, one boundary at a time.
You're not alone on the path toward reclaiming your life after separation—countless courageous women have walked this journey, and their stories of transformation are nothing short of heroic. This episode is an ode to their strength, as we expl...
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36. Healthy boundaries: What are they and how can they help us post-separation?
Whether you're navigating the rough waters of separation, enduring the aftermath of divorce, or co-parenting with an ex-partner who exerts control, this episode promises insights that will support you on your journey. In this episo...
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35. When your mental health is attacked...and a rant about equal shared parenting time
The hidden gambit of abusers to weaponize mental health allegations in post-separation parenting disputes is both cruel and cunning. As mentioned in the title of this episode, I also wax lyrical about the way in which I despise the way...
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34. Part Two: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
I've felt the sting of disbelief and the accusations of "liar!" from 'flying monkeys' first-hand. In this episode I continue to peel back the layers of post-separation abuse and the deeply entrenched sexism that allows it to thrive in ...
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33. Part One: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
Have you ever witnessed a friend or family member supporting someone you know is harmful? In the latest episode, I pull back the curtain on the role of 'flying monkeys'—those who, perhaps unwittingly, become the enablers of abusers. Jo...
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32. Unmasking 'Flying Monkeys': The allies, advocates and enablers of abusers.
Discover the insidious ways enablers, allies, and advocates of abusers can deepen the wounds of post-separation abuse. I'm your host, Australian specialist separation and divorce coach Danielle Black, and this episode peels back the cu...
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31. BONUS: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - flexible thinking, compromise and high-quality preparation
I'm Danielle Black, your Specialist Separation, Divorce, and Co-Parenting Coach, here to guide Australian women through the stormy waters of separation, divorce, court preparation and effective co-parenting. This bonus episode of...
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30. Part Four: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - taking responsibility for healing trauma and complex PTSD
The conversation in this episode branches out to the often-shadowed corners of complex PTSD, where symptoms can masquerade as other disorders, leading to alarming rates of misdiagnosis. It's a frank discussion with Australian Se...
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29. Part Three: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - regular written updates & photo sharing apps
In this episode I emphasise the importance of consistent written communication as a safeguard against false accusations. Whether it's setting up a new email address or using secure platforms like Our Family Wizard, these strategies can he...
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