The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
Hosted by Danielle Black
A direct, evidence-based podcast for people navigating all-things separation and divorce, including; post-separation abuse, family violence, parenting, property settlement and the family law system - with a relentless focus on protecting children and building a life beyond separation.
Danielle Black is a specialist post-separation parenting coach and the founder of Danielle Black Coaching.
Drawing on developmental science, research, trauma-informed practice and lived experience, she examines how abuse can continue after separation, how systems and professionals respond, and what genuinely informed decision-making and credible advocacy requires when risk, fear or power imbalance is present.
Because understanding family law is not enough.
Having a lawyer is not enough.
A lawyer can advise you about the law, legal process and evidence. But optimising your outcome may also require knowledge of child development, attachment, coercive control and trauma; the capacity to remain strategic under pressure; and the confidence to advocate for what you and your children genuinely need.
This podcast examines all of those layers.
It challenges the assumptions that routinely shape post-separation outcomes: the fixation on 50/50 shared care, the misuse of “friendly parent” ideals, the belief that compromise is always constructive, and the fantasy that engaging the right professional means you can safely hand over the strategy, decision-making and advocacy.
Across the podcast, Danielle explores:
- how post-separation abuse operates through parenting, financial and legal processes;
- what children need after separation - and why adult notions of fairness are an inadequate guide;
- what lawyers and other post-separation professionals were, and were not, trained to understand;
- why standard co-parenting frameworks often fail families affected by coercive control and other forms of family violence and post-separation abuse;
- how to assess the benefits, risks and real-world costs of negotiation, litigation and other pathways;
- how knowledge, capacity and advocacy can materially change outcomes;
- and what comes next, when separation and survival no longer occupy the centre of your life.
Expect direct language, research-backed analysis, practical guidance and a few cuss words - not platitudes, false balance or simplistic promises of justice.
This is not only about understanding what happened in your situation.
It is about making informed decisions now - and becoming the author, and authority, of what comes next.
To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program for parents building the knowledge, capacity and advocacy skills needed to make informed, protective decisions after separation.
Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au.
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
Latest Episodes
116. The Good Girl Contract - part four: Interrupting the Contract
Part 4 of The Good Girl Contract series.This is where the series pivots. Parts 1, 2, and 3 were diagnostic in nature - naming the Contract, walking through what happened when we took it into adult intimate relationships, and naming the m...
115. The good girl contract - part three: The mirror
If you have been quietly noticing that you struggle to accept other people's boundaries with you - that their no’s, their unavailability, their limits land in you as evidence of your own worth rather than as data about their life - this episode...
114. The good girl contract - part two: The moth and the flame
Their woundedness was a moth to a flame to your overfunctioning.Part 2 of The Good Girl Contract walks through what happened when you took the Contract into your adult intimate relationships. Why the men who f...
113. The good girl contract - part one: Where boundaries begin (or don't)
When your childhood taught you that having needs was dangerous - that being pleasing, useful, and indispensable was the difference between love and its withdrawal - the reason boundaries are so hard as an adult is not that you are weak. It ...
112. Working as intended (Postscript): Do I even need a lawyer? An honest conversation on self-representation
If you have been listening to our Working As Intended series, and you have been quietly wondering "if lawyers were never trained in what my children need, and I have to bring all of that myself, do I even need a lawyer at all?" - this ...